Premarital Counseling
Wedding bells are ringing
Yay! You’re engaged and ready to spend the rest of your lives together.
You’ve been planning your big day, making sure every detail is covered. But have you started planning your marriage? Probably not.
Some couples get caught up in the excitement of the wedding and forget about the marriage.
Evolving during your marriage
Over the course of your marriage, you and your spouse will grow into individuals who might be a different version of yourselves compared with who you were on your wedding day.
Bodies age, the romantic flame cools down, and health concerns might arise.
Together, you’ll transition through the stages of life such as starting a career, having a family, raising the kids, becoming empty nesters, and retiring.
All these life stages come with their own difficulties for you to work through.
Premarital counseling provides you an opportunity to develop healthy skills and tools to work through those difficult times.
Putting all your cards on the table
It is important for you as a couple to establish a strong and stable foundation for your marriage to flourish.
Premarital counseling gives you and your fiancé a calm, safe place to address any concerns you have prior to getting married.
There is no topic off limits. Complete transparency. I encourage my couples to be entirely honest with each other. The more honest you are with each other, the stronger the trust bond will be between you two.
Full disclosure up front
Premarital counseling is the time to disclose, express, question, and explore what you want out of your marriage.
Each spouse brings to the relationship their own perceptions of what a marriage should be due to their environment and life experiences.
The couple will have an opportunity to address their thoughts, feelings, concerns, and expectations of their marriage.
Planning for your marriage
We’ll talk about talking. Communication is one of the keys to a long and healthy marriage. In premarital counseling, you will establish new and healthy communication skills to help you work through life’s challenges.
While you’re married, it’s inevitable that you and your spouse will have disagreements and possibly full-blown fights. It’s not the subject of the fight that’s most important; it’s how you react and respond to the situation. You will learn and improve on conflict resolution strategies.
Identify the stressors up front
Throughout the life cycle of the marriage, there are some common hot topics that most couples have difficulty addressing, such as money, sex, household roles and responsibilities, and parenting styles.
Together, we will identify and process future martial stressors in which you think you might encounter. We will create a plan for you to implement when those stressors arise.
Lastly, every successful marriage requires a significant level of intimacy. Intimacy doesn’t develop overnight. It takes time and effort. During premarital counseling, I encourage my couples to plant the seeds of intimacy and water them through the marriage.
Prior planning creates a strong marriage
Your marriage deserves a strong foundation.
Call me for your free 15-minute phone consultation.